The trick to making your New Year’s Resolutions Stick
What are your New Year’s Resolutions?
As I sit here, eating an ice cream (because I haven’t eaten quite enough over the last few days), my thoughts turn to New Year’s Resolutions. I have a love hate relationship with New Year’s Resolutions.
Why I Love New Year’s Resolutions
The New Year is a time of promise and opportunity. Anything could happen, and I mean that in a really positive way. You could win lotto, get a promotion or start building that business you have always wanted to give a go. On a no less important scale, this year might be the year that you run a marathon, have a child, buy your first house. This year you might see a new country for the first time.
Whatever it is, chances are 2018 will have some firsts and some achievements in it for you. I love that about the start of the New Year. The promise of something amazing, as yet unknown, in your future. And the grand thing is, you get to decide (in most cases) what that “something amazing” looks like.
I love New Year’s Resolutions because you get a clean page to write your story on at the start of every New Year. You get to put out into the Universe what you want to achieve, do or gain. It’s a really affirming process that empowers each of us to take control of our future.
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Why I Hate New Year’s Resolutions
I don’t really do “hate”. Way too much negative energy to put into something. So, let’s just say that on an equal basis New Year’s Resolutions cause me mild annoyance. Annoyance because you don’t need an arbitrary date to do something. If there is something that you want to do or achieve, why not go for it when you decide it is something you want. For example, if you are ready to start a new business, you don’t have to wait until 2018 to begin. You can start today, right now, if you want.
The second mildly annoying element of the New Year’s Resolution is that it is often executed as a wish to the Universe. This year I am going to lose 20 kilos’ or this year I am going to be more forceful in meetings. Great sentiment, but just saying it does not make it happen. I should know, I have been going to lose weight and get fit every year I can remember.
The Trick to New Year’s Resolution’s
As Eleanor Roosevelt so wisely put it, “It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan”. So, the trick my friends, is to plan. As you know, I love me a planning strategy. I talk about it regularly in my blog, you can find my jabbering on about it here, here and here. If you want a promotion, put it out into the Universe on New Year’s Eve, but on New Year’s Day plan to make it happen. What are you going to do differently? What does your workplace look for to promote internally? How are you going to demonstrate that you offer them what they need? Who are you going to engage to help make it happen? What are you going to do differently?
I have asked “what are you going to do differently” twice, because I think it’s important. You are not going to change anything if you do not change anything. Expecting a different outcome doing exactly the same thing is at least the colloquial definition of insanity. And that is where New Year’s Resolutions fall down. We say what we want, then fail to change a single thing to get it. I am all for hope, but when you are banking solely on hope and a wish to the universe to get what you want, then you are leaving too much to chance.
Write it down, as you would any plan. Tick off the elements as you make them happen, that is called progress. Make it happen, not just because you want it to happen, but because you are an active participant in your own goals.
The Trick to Your New Year’s Resolutions
The trick to your New Year’s Resolution this year is to make it more than a wish. Plan for your achievement, execute your plan in a methodical way. If you do this, then I bet that when we regroup for the start of 2019 you will have achieved everything you wished for this Sunday night.
Happy New Year, I know that you will receive all that you work for.
What are your New Year’s Resolutions? Let me know in the comments or over on our Facebook page.